Dating Bradford : Pride Points

Every year at Thanksgiving I say “Hmmm… what am I thankful for this year?” Then I make a mental list and toast some theoretical champagne and in some small way it makes me feel appreciative for all that I have.

So then Gay Pride comes around and I started thinking, “Hmmm…what the HELL am I proud of this year, I’m still single for fuck sake?!?”

Coming Out - It is All About You

Whenever some thinks about coming out there is always the fear on how people will react to your news. We skip over the whole fact that coming out isn’t about other people, it is all about you.

Bummed Out And Getting Over It

I’m going to be honest. I don’t feel like writing this article. And the reason why is that I’m bummed out, which in turn makes me not motivated to do much but sit, pout, and stamp my feet screaming “Life’s not fair!” Without getting too personal I feel like certain things in my life are nowhere near where I would like them to be. And it doesn’t seem like that is going to change any time soon. So I’m depressed and frustrated and don’t feel like writing. I know that when I feel this way there a certain things that help snap me out of this funk:

Naked Power

There’s an adage that says, "All the world’s problems could be solved if our leaders would hold their meetings in the nude." The image may be humorous, but you can’t miss the powerful connection between accepting our bodies and accepting each other.

The Invisible Generation

My friend Louis dragged me to a party of one of his friends, who just turned 21. At the party, Louis had a group of young guys hanging on his every word. He turned and pointed out a man in his 40s and said, "Who invited their dad?" All the boys giggled with delight at his remark as I stood stone-faced and not amused.

The generation that blew open the closet door and put out the welcome mat for all of us happens to be the same generation we throw back in the closet to hide them from the world. They are invisible to us.

Here are five reasons they should no longer be ignored:

Creating a "Relationship" Profile

When you first sign up at Gay.com to start your search for love, you have to create a profile. This online profile is your calling card to potential boyfriends. Here are five areas to think about when creating your successful profile to hook that first date with Mr. Right.

Survive Getting Laid Off

I know. The dreaded "L" word and I am not talking about the lesbian show that used to be Showtime. In this economy we are hearing more and more people are facing lay offs. I am sure you feel it everyday at work. The whispers, the rumors, the closed door meetings. You white knuckle it through out the day hoping it won't be you.

Unfortunately, sometimes it is you.

Is There Life After 21?

As we grow further away from 21, we start to dread our birthdays instead of realizing we are just as good, if not better, than we were then.

Here are five steps that will have you loving your birthdays way beyond 21:

Assertiveness - Getting Over The Hump

This column is the last installment of what has become a three part series. First, I wrote how a fearful preoccupation with believing you are always the odd man out, can sabotage prospects of finding friends or a partner, even before you go looking. I had a number of responses that understood what I meant conceptually, but were left wanting more practical steps to overcome these social obstacles.

How Bad Do You Want It? - Part 1

Most people have goals they’d like to accomplish: improved health,  a better body, finding a boyfriend, less stress, more money, hot sex or all of the above.   In this quest for a better life we often think about the people, places or things that may bring us the happiness we desire.  We set goals, create New Year’s resolutions or other types of plans to take action.

For many people, however, the process of achieving more in life doesn’t always go the way they planned.  Some might not know where to start, or what they truly want.  Others start taking steps to accomplish something, yet never quite seem to follow through.  And for many of us, even when we reach our goals we don’t feel satisfied for long, and are always looking for the bigger better deal.