Swaying To The Music: The Forgotten Art Of Slow Dancing

Why do Baptists never make love standing up? Because it will lead to dancing. Silly joke, but as someone who grew up Southern Baptist, it’s funny because it really does seem that Baptists fear dancing more than sex sometimes. With America’s puritanical heritage, dancing has often fallen right in line with sex, drugs, and rock and roll. So when I became comfortable with my gay sexuality, I also discovered the goodness of dancing. What a wonderful release and celebration of my authenticity — the blissful and free movement of my body in whatever way it struck me in the moment!

Dating Bradford: Summer Luvin'

“Where were you last night till 3?” Asked Jetson on the deck of his shack on the water in P-Town, “Everything closes here at one, so I take it you got into some trouble?”

Love Hurts

Dear Adam and Tony.  What do you do when love hurts as much as it feels good? I’ve fallen in love with someone that lives 2 hours away. When I get to see him, about once a week, I am the happiest I can be. But when I am not with him and we aren’t talking on the phone, I feel depressed. I get paranoid that he might stop liking me. Is it worth dealing with this pain to be with someone I feel I love? You have truly inspired me knowing that two men can stay partners for such a long time. Congrats, and thanks!! David.

Ask Zax: Neg for POZ?

Dear Todd,

I met this cool guy. We’d been chatting online for months now, and today we finally hung out. It was a very pleasant day and we spent 9 hours together. The date ended with us pretty much making out. Since it was apparent we were on the road to much sexier things, I stopped and asked him, “Are you safe and clean?” He was hesitant at first, but then told me that he was HIV positive.

I didn’t freak out and run away because I know it must of been hard for him to be honest and tell me—which I really admire—so we spent the rest of the night watching a movie, making out some more, and cuddling. Then before I went home he asked if I was going to see him again, and I said sure.

Breaking Up (And Surviving) Is Hard To Do

Oh! The agony of ending a relationship. The rejection, the sense of failure, the loss, and the sadness — these feelings are so intense, that it seems like they will never end. Hopelessness abounds from the fear you’ll never find anyone else to share your life with. You may be embarrassed to talk to friends for fear they won’t understand, or, worse yet, they start preaching to you about how the guy wasn’t good for you anyway — that's helpful and supportive! In the swirl of confusion, helplessness and change it’s so hard to keep perspective. So here are some reminders to weather the stormy end of a relationship.

7 Reasons Why He Didn't Call

You have been talking to guy online for a week now. You have great conversations and seem to have a lot in common. He makes you laugh and you always get excited when you are able to catch him online for a chat. You finally make plans to get together.

You meet up for a dinner. You feel the conversation is flowing just like online. You are having a great time and it appears he is enjoying himself as well. You laugh, you flirt, and you tease. It is a great date and things are going so well. By the end of the night you say your goodbyes and he smiles and says, "I will give you a call soon."

You drive home thinking of your great date, you are so excited for the next and now you wait for the call.

The call which never comes...

Dating Bradford: That Something Special

“How was your date last night?” Asked Griffen, over Pad Thai at Vynl in Hells Kitchen.

“It went well I guess,” I said “I mean, he was fun, and handsome, and sweet with a great body. He just left my apartment before I came to meet you for dinner – a real power bottom if the truth be told.”

Dating Bradford : Pride Points

Every year at Thanksgiving I say “Hmmm… what am I thankful for this year?” Then I make a mental list and toast some theoretical champagne and in some small way it makes me feel appreciative for all that I have.

So then Gay Pride comes around and I started thinking, “Hmmm…what the HELL am I proud of this year, I’m still single for fuck sake?!?”

Ask Adam & Tony: Closet Love

"Dear Adam & Tony, I wonder if there is any help on being in love with someone who is straight? I'm currently still in the closet, but I am truly in love with one of my best friends. He's straight, or at least I think he is, and I don't know how to handle it.  I don't want to lose him as a friend, but it's hard to keep pretending. What can I do?  Steve"

Can We Get A Lil' Love?

I wanted to find out the relationship status of the people who peruse this site (which is not necessarily those who have personals or memberships) so I set up a simple survey. My curiosity was piqued since out of all the people who rant and rage about what kind of relationships work and don’t work, rarely do these folks mention their own relationship status. These entries literally number in the thousands and yet they are all but silent about their own connections. I find this fascinating. Just to be fair, I am single, and have been in relationships in the past, for a total of 15 years.