Yes Virginia, There Really Is Bisexuality*

The recent opinion editorials and responses highlight how much of a flash point this topic is in the LGBT community. As fun as it is to banter about, what does the research suggest? In the case of bisexuality, the picture is “Yes, there is bisexuality.”*

On A POZitive Note: The Medical Maelstrom

Choosing a health care plan is frustrating. Choosing one when you’ve just been diagnosed HIV positive and haven’t had health insurance for over ten years is scary. For instance I bet you didn't know that if you've had more than a three-month break in coverage, most insurance companies have a mandatory 12 month coverage block on all “pre-existing conditions” and being diagnosed HIV positive, or having cancer, or even diabetes falls under the heading of “pre-existing.” 

“Well, just don’t tell them” said a friend, but they have ways of finding out - like requesting medical records from doctors - so you can’t hide the facts. 

Dating Bradford: Speed Dating-The Awkward Marathon

“Come with me to this Speed Dating thing tomorrow night,” said my ex-boyfriend Tristan on our way out of Toxic Avenger The Musical, “It’s hysterical like the show we just saw, only instead of a geek getting dunked in toxic sludge, we get sprayed in the face with spittle by guys with bad breath sitting way too close. It’s completely awkward – you’ll LOVE it. Besides if you don’t come I’m not going alone.”

Ask Adam & Tony: Made In His Image

"Dear Adam And Tony, I’ve tried repeatedly to change my image, but every time I do, it seems people don’t seem to care or make me feel more of an outcast because I tried to fit in.  What can I do to change everyone’s mind and make them want to be my friend since I haven’t done anything wrong in the first place to make them not want me around? Billy"

Naked Power

There’s an adage that says, "All the world’s problems could be solved if our leaders would hold their meetings in the nude." The image may be humorous, but you can’t miss the powerful connection between accepting our bodies and accepting each other.

7 Tips on Hooking Up

"I don't hook up" is a phrase you will hear a lot this summer. Many guys love to say they never hook up  but by the end of the night they are "hooking up" with one of your drunk friends. It is not my place (or yours) to judge what people do with their lives. Summer is here so it is time to put on some sun block, get out those board shorts and go have a good time. With that said, hooking up maybe a part of your Summer Lovin'.

Here are some tips to allow you to enjoy your summer fling but not get yourself into trouble.

Dating Bradford : It's Alright to Cry

Men generally suppress the urge to cry because it’s considered a sign of weakness and one of the many stigma attached to masculinity that society has placed on us. In the dating world gay men often look down on each other when emotion or vulnerability are expressed because many guys aren’t attracted to behavior construed as feminine.

The whole “straight acting” mentality constrains us so much that we behave mostly in ways that appear attractive to others rather than what might come naturally. Why is it then, when we are identified as being “an old married couple” (regardless of age) that we can let our feminine sides come out? And yet sometimes not even then if we still want people to think we’re a hot couple?

How Bad Do You Want It - Part 2

When it comes to reaching goals, most people simply want it all right now.  I am certainly a fan of working smarter not harder to achieve the things in life you desire.  At the same time, we are a society of “bigger better deals” - bigger body, better house, better job or hotter boyfriend.  This, in turn, has taught many of us, consciously and unconsciously, to look for the quick fix.  Ironically, this often sabotages our efforts to actually reach our goals, since we get frustrated when things don’t happen as quickly as we want.

Are You A Sex Addict?

"I like sex. I mean, I like LOTS of sex. I see all this stuff on sex addiction, and wonder if I’m a sex addict. How would I know?"

There is a joke that a sex addict is anyone having more sex then me. Depending on whom you’re talking to, anything is possible. All joking aside, the most difficult part of your question is the fact that there is no easy answer. People want a Yes/No response. The only right answer is “it depends.”

Who And What Are You To Believe About HIV?

"I have had three partners die as a result of the HIV virus since the mid 80’s and I am still negative.  I was the bottom in all three relationships and did not use protection. I lived in a rural town in Idaho that didn’t have much knowledge of stuff back then.

I moved to LA with one of my partners and finally got him on AZT. The doctor wanted me on it even though I tested negative as he thought it was a false negative?  So I was on it a year but made me so ill I stopped it.  Even though I still test negative I have different conditions that are usually related to it, like Pneumocystis pneumonia, thrush and other. 

My question is what I am to think about if I am really negative or positive?  I was told about ten years ago in a clinic in Seattle that I can not be infected since I did not get it with all I have done, but to use protection anyway. Who and what am I to believe and what do I tell my partners?"