Do All Gay Men Cheat?

"I met a guy online and we have "played" many times during his lunch break. He is partnered and I am single "in the closet". I have asked him whether he feels bad that he is cheating on his BF. He has mentioned that we do sex acts that his lover does not. I have barebacked him a few times and he doesn't seem to worry that I might give him HIV or an STD. Are all gay relationships like this?"

If You Think It's Sexy, Show Us!

"One word... SEXY!!!"

"A white trash affectation."

"Hottest thing in the world."

"I would rather eat a 100 pounds of horse shit!"

Seems like one story touched a nerve with a lot of folks! With few exceptions everyone had very clear views on the subject. 

And just what got everyone all worked up? 

Assertiveness - Getting Over The Hump

This column is the last installment of what has become a three part series. First, I wrote how a fearful preoccupation with believing you are always the odd man out, can sabotage prospects of finding friends or a partner, even before you go looking. I had a number of responses that understood what I meant conceptually, but were left wanting more practical steps to overcome these social obstacles.

Dating Bradford: Letting Go

Last week I had a first date with a wonderful guy. That is to say I had MADE a first date with a guy I thought was wonderful. We had immediate phone chemistry, and sent funny texts back and forth – all those excited-by-you things like the “Are you still up” text followed by an immediate return of an hour-long phone call. I was looking forward to our first date more than any first date I’ve had in, ummm… three whole weeks. Shut up, you know what I mean, most blind dates are an exercise in meet-and-greet, but every once in a while you get butterflies. He was butterflies.

How Bad Do You Want It? - Part 1

Most people have goals they’d like to accomplish: improved health,  a better body, finding a boyfriend, less stress, more money, hot sex or all of the above.   In this quest for a better life we often think about the people, places or things that may bring us the happiness we desire.  We set goals, create New Year’s resolutions or other types of plans to take action.

For many people, however, the process of achieving more in life doesn’t always go the way they planned.  Some might not know where to start, or what they truly want.  Others start taking steps to accomplish something, yet never quite seem to follow through.  And for many of us, even when we reach our goals we don’t feel satisfied for long, and are always looking for the bigger better deal.

Are You Ready?

As I write these articles, I always wonder will they be ready for this?

I receive comments where people hate what I have to say. They think it is all crazy and makes no sense. Some think the information is not practical and there is no way it would ever work. Others believe our community is not able to move past the stereotypes, the superficial nature or the mean and cruel attitudes. Reading some of the comments I would almost agree. :)

Stop Feeling Ugly

If you open most gay magazines, websites, or watch LGBT television, more often than not you'll see shirtless men with perfect abs, white teeth and flawless skin. Even some social service organizations use sexual images to promote themselves. Is this a new concept, or one seen only in the gay community? Certainly not. 

Do You Know How To Put A Condom On Correctly?

You hear it over and over again: Condoms can save your life.  But do you know how to put one on correctly? Are you using the right-size condom? How about your choice of lube? You can't afford to make a mistake.

If you've never used a condom before, the following tips and guidelines will help you keep things safe. And if you've been using them for years, you may want to take this little refresher just to make sure you're doing things right. 

Mirror, Mirror... Part 1

We challenged you last week to send us your best reflection photo and we got a number of great pics.  We received a number of great photos but have we seen the best mirror pic yet? We know there are still many more really creative people out there willing to give this a shot. 

Check out all of the great photos we received.  The challenge is still going so try your hand at it and see if you can come up with something more creative.

More albums will be added as photos are received.

Ask Adam and Tony: “Two Bottoms”

"Dear Adam & Tony, I just met this wonderful guy. We have tons of interests in common, our personalities are very similar.  He’s very successful and incredibly attractive. He’s someone I would definitely be proud to be with and show my friends and family. The problem is we’re both bottoms, or more accurately, versatile bottoms. Although we take turns who gets to be the bottom, is this a man I should really pursue when we are always wrestling in bed for who has to be on top? I would hate to think that this could be a deal-breaker. -- Noah"