Tri Athlete

So how many of you out there tried 21s? No, I'm not talking about the young'uns who are now legally able to drink! (Though I'm sure that would be an interesting topic as well.) I'm referring to an exercise to build up your biceps.

To really get a good set of arms, you mustwork out your triceps as well. The triceps are actually the larger muscle of the arm. Think about it . . . tri (three) versus bi (two). So it is imperative to work the triceps as hard and as frequently as you work your biceps.

Pushup/Dumbbell Row Combo

When you were a kid, did you ever play "Light as a feather, stiff as a board?" It was a game we used to play at parties and it would freak me the hell out! Someone would lie on the ground with his arms at his side and legs together, tightening every muscle on his body. Everyone else would gather around the person and place the index finger from each hand underneath the person's body. Then everyone would chant "light as a feather, stiff as a board, light as a feather, stiff as a board ... " and magically lift the person off the ground, using just their fingers!

That was usually the moment I would run out of the room screaming.

How Not To Be An Ass

Oh, you know who you are! We think sometimes that being catty, rude, mean and putting others down is just a part of the gay community. It's all fun and games until your life is full of ex's who hate you, friends who never want to speak to you, people who avoid you and you find yourself more alone than ever. This is when you will wonder, "What have I done to deserve this?"

I think we all have given and received our fair share of bad treatment. My goal is not to change the world but hopefully help a few of you to think twice before you dish it out again.

Dating Bradford: Red Flags and White Elephants

What to do on a first date when you figuratively find yourself in a room full of red flags and white elephants? The red flags a guy waves baring slogans like, “Sketchy Situation,” and the white elephants you’re supposed to ignore with name tags reading, “Hello I’m Don’t Ask.” Do you disregard the elephants while making polite cocktail chatter with your new date? Or do you Bic lighter those red flags and leave the entire situation burning itself to the ground?

These were my thoughts going into a blind date one Friday night with a newly out 44 year-old Connecticut guy living two hours away by car. He had kindly offered to make me breakfast the next morning if I came up, but would I mind if his “buddy” came along on our date?

Who Gets Your Vote For HOTTIE Of The Month?

Over the past 4 weeks we featured 60 hot gay.com members on our homepage.  You must have liked our picks since a staggering number of you checked out their profiles. 

Of all the guys we featured these 10 guys were the ones that really got your attention.  But which one is your favorite?  Vote now!

Hot Commodity: Mrthatcher

Whether you're young or mature, thin or solid, we all have the potential to be a Hot Commodity.

mrthatcher
New York City, New York, 40, 5'8", 155 lbs.

"I adore my family and friends, but I'm definitely at the point in my life where I'm looking to settle down...but don't worry, I know it takes time to get there (and the courting part can be so much fun).  I'm good boyfriend material if you value monogamy, honesty, affection, and a sense of humor."

21 Or Bust

Ask a guy what body part he finds most attractive on another guy and nine times out of 10 you will hear "A good set of arms." Nothing looks sexier than a well-developed arm stretching the sleeves of an Ed Hardy T-shirt. That's why most guys, when they first venture into weight training, will spend a good amount of time training their arms.

“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Should Go To …

Took a while to remove homosexuality from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (aka DSM-IV). At least American psychoanalysts are quicker off the mark with a proactive position on “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”

My Brain Hurts!

While it was funny as hell when Monty Python ran the recurring skit of men with handkerchiefs on their heads screaming that their “brains hurt,” a new study from the Center for the Study of Traumatic Encephalopathy at the Boston School of Medicine finds that brain trauma from concussions suffered by athletes is deep, lasting and stunningly debilitating – for life.

And that's not so funny.

We Met On Gay.com: Dathan and Marco

My Italian Stallion Marco (on left), has the biggest heart! He gives so much to many less fortunate near him and NEVER expects anything back.