Hands-free orgasm!

Dear Dr. Rix, Last night I was watching porn and trying to get off. I grabbed my dick but I really wanted to rub my abs. I flexed my abs and started rubbing them up & down really fast. That made me cum! It was like jacking off my torso! I was holding my dick still but the action of flexing my abs and rubbing them made me cum. Have you heard of anything like that? It was a really cool orgasm. -- Sensitive Washboard.

Very hot, SW! Yes, the human body can be wired up in many different ways, and just about any part can be sexually stimulated to bring on arousal. Many people have discovered parts of their bodies that have a direct connection to their genitals, like a tug on the nipple or a kiss on the neck. But there seems to be no limit to which body part can do this, depending on the person. Sometimes it not only stimulates arousal, but one rarer occasions, it can bring on orgasm and ejaculation, as well (Although orgasm and ejaculation can be two different things, for the sake of space, I’m going to call it all “cumming”).

There are people who can cum from their pits being licked. Some people cum from just their inner thighs being touched. I know it sounds a little like a Dr. Suess poem — “Some can cum from tickling their feet, some can cum from kissing their cheek” — but our bodies are that diverse. Of course, there are a lot of guys that just being penetrated, with probably a good bump on the prostate, can bring on a strong cum without ever grabbing their rod.

Furthermore, people who have lost sensation from their waist or neck down often have bodies that compensate for the loss. Somehow their bodies shift sensitivity to such a degree that lightly rubbing the back of their arms, for example, can send them into orbit around the planet orgasmia. The human body is that amazing!

I’ll let you in on a little secret, our muscles around the genital area can have a significant influence on our ability to cum. The more in shape they are the stronger the cum, and many feel they have better control over their cumming as well. How do you exercise them? Besides the fun activity of sex, it’s much like Kegel Exercises for women. Three easy steps:

1) squeeze all your genital muscles (including around your anus)  like when you have to pee but you have to hold it.
2) relax all your muscles down there (really concentrate at relaxing ALL of the muscles -- it can take a few seconds), and
3) push all of these muscles, like you’re taking a dump (but don’t actually take one).

Do forty of these a day — squeeze, relax, push, relax, and so on — and you’ll have stronger cums. I’ve known guys that get so good at this that just by squeezing and relaxing over and over again, they can cum without ever touching their cocks. I’ll bet your abs trick was some kind of configuration similar to this, SW.

For an even stronger dimension to this exercise, use one of those tiny vibrators that come with a rubbery cockring and strap it around the head of your erect penis. It takes some finessing to get it to stay on, but then use it as a kind of barbell when doing these exercises — while it’s vibrating — and I tell you, you’re gonna see God, and it’s going to feel like he’s sucking you dry! Enjoy!

(Photo: Getty Images)

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Dr. Jallen Rix holds a doctorate of education in sexology and specializes in maximizing sexual pleasure for singles and couples, "ex-gay" recovery, religious abuse and creative approaches to sex education. You can learn more about Dr. Rix at his website.

Comments

[mykal]

gay.com is ridiculous. "stronger cums" you gotta trust someone when they use phrases like that (sarcasm)

[Joey]

I think thats hot....

[Craig]

"Taking a dump"? Guess they don't teach class or tact in sexology school. Allow me communicate on your level..."What a douche-bag".

[wallace]

I think dr. rix is very good looking, but I think he is very wrong in the pressure he says you should put on your anus. This will only create hemoroids from my readings. Someday I will write a book on true gay sex, and how to achieve it even without a blowjob, or beatings, or ass fucking. This is all adolescent behavior, and don't belong with the real men. I think you people are all missing a few things, like the woman who you crave to be. makes no sense, but I think you are all lost. I have made men cum without even touching their gentinals (however you spell it) Someday I will write the book .

[Jeremy]

You may want to learn how to spell genitals before you write a book on gay sex. Just a suggestion!

[Lord Anthony]

Someone has a sexual event and a professional helps put it in perspective and this is bad?

Has anyone else had an orgasm by rubbing their abs? Rubbing their nipples, prostate or the head of the penis in the palm ... sure! but your abs?

I think the Drs answer is very positive. Basically saying "I've seen it all and THAT is freaky! I can't explain why it happened but I CAN tell you how to make it better!"

I think the response articulately handles a very fascinating form of orgasm. I wanna flex & rub and see what happens! :)

[SecondHandLion]

I once had a boyfriend who just happened to hit the right spot on the nape of my neck during sex, catapulting me into a sustained orgasm(not ejaculation) as long as he continued the action with his lips. Too bad that his penis was rarely ever able to get the job done without some added help. But he was a gorgeous thing & I was too much in love at the time. Unfortunately for me, he was also a user (of people). Right, Joseph?
I learned myself that a man's body has all sorts of erotic "hot spots" that most men don't know about until someone "hits it" just right. You can drive a man crazy with just a wisp of breath, if you know what to do. Massaging your partner & paying attention to the reactions he has can help lead you to many of these erogenous zones.

[splerk]

I think this is a great idea ---
Exploring Yourself beyond the norm.
You just might learn something about yourself.
And then the next time you are checking someone out, ---
Imagine where their Big O Spot could be.
He just might catch your eye scan.
Who knows that just might turn out to be the ultimate, "Trick of the Trade" to show, tell, exchange, & Trade.

[joe]

one time i was in a rest stall taking a dump and pushing REAL hard ....i soon look down and cum came out of my dick!

[coffeeshopjournalist]

I really think this site could use a real story with some real impact in the gay community. This crap is ridiculous, like any other article I've read here...

[DaveyD]

**|ATTN|Bare with me on this one|I promise you will find this useful|** ;-).. I feel a lot of this "sensation touch" has to do w/the month U were born, whichever "consolation" is out, & which planet is exposed to the Earth @ the time of birth too. "Astrological crap" (sounds like), but keep in mind that we do consider a "woodpecker|bird" in South America (with a longer beak because the tree bark is tougher in S-America) the same genera as the same "woodpecker|bird" in North America (with a shorter beak, because the tree bark is softer), ergo; the two birds being of the same species.. What I'm saying with my "woodpecker theory," is merely "if what's surrounding the environment effects the way people, animals, and all forms of life are (regardless of the species being the same but the genera's different places they live causing said species to "adapt" to its surroundings), then why not what's surrounding the Entire Planet Earth effect the way life is also?! I have done years of "study & experiment" on the issue, don't believe in "telling the future" with the whole situation (which's the ONLY reason said situation becomes a "blasphemy"), & have concluded this theory in humans, animals, and all forms of life (people, cats, dogs, birds, Polar bears even). That being said, certain parts of the body have been said to "rule" upon other parts of the body in accordance with ones birth month_day. For example: January_'capricorn's muscle(s) being the Brain, & knees. February_'aquarius' muscle being the Calves & Ankles. March_'pisces' muscle(s) being the Feet, & Thighs, etc. etc.

Try it out?! :-D Take the month you were born in, the day of said month also, & look up the muscle(s) &/or bone(s); doing the same as this article was saying (as far as massaging them, and seeing how much more it turns you on)..

Either way, this "sensitivity article," & idea, in general, is very much fact (and not merely a "blah blah idea").. I am a scientist, having my Associates degree so far, and only 11 classes away from my bachelors degree too, SO?! I can make theories as often times scientists do, and until they are proven wrong (by another scientist I may add), said theory may even become a Law?! If you have read this far, thank you for doing so_listening to my hair brained theories! I just feel orgasms & anything related to such, for that matter, "shouldn't EVER be limited to only TWO "sexual organs" (the penis, and vagina), but should always have "Carma Suttra" like LIMITLESS possibilities?!

Thank you for your time,

D.V., 2d Lt, AAS, BAS (<-2 sem's shy)

[culoamigo]

Even if Dr.Rix´s theories seem to be a little out there, the truth is that it is only when you have been able to experience them first hand, that you ccan find them belivable.
Take for instance, I went to get massage on my lower back because it was killing me. The therapist massaged my lower back and my buttocks, not only did the pain dissappear but also I came like crazy from the plesurable sensation of having my ass rubbed.

[SOUTH64]

See God? "feel like He's sucking you dry?" My gosh, you're going straight to hell in a cheap rainbow colored Easter basket from Wal Mart...

[WTF?]

Wow this guy is so full of crap. sorry babe i can't mess around right now cause I'm around 25 squeezes to making me cum stronger can we do it in a couple days? crack me up!

[crazyc]

south64, i'm pretty sure that the intent wasn't to be blasphemous, otherwise "he" would've been capitalized. i do think that maybe "your partner" instead of the all inclusive "he" might've been a better choice of wording.

and if we're going to hell anyway (due to us being damned homosexuals), then why not in a cheap rainbow colored Easter basket from walmart?

anyway, back to my kegels...

[Thunderous]

this 'Sensitive Washboard' is a douche bag, big time, no doubt about it.

[s]

actually this happens to me too.
I am a bi guy. ANd I have never had anal sex. But if I rub my abs, or my perennium, I orgasm so hard, even without touching my penis.

[GM]

If we took more time exploring our body, and our partner's body we would discover that there are lots of pressure points that stimulates our senses beyond belief. Instead of rushing to the finish line, take your time and enjoy the complete experience of sex.

[THEMAN!]

No need to mention God in this gay friendly article. why be so crude and so damned low life as gays are known for anyway. try to get another profession u loose lipped fiend

[rod]

long life to sensitive spots.
This article? bad taste...