Getting Out Of A Sexual Slump

Dear Gay Sexpert, Recently I have not been feeling my sexual self, which is odd, considering I am 18 and “should” have a very healthy libido. I haven't had sex in nearly 5 months nor have I had the urge; porn has lost its appeal now as well. Just a week ago I was in a position where I could have had sex, but it seemed like a chore & I just wasn't interested. I've never had any problems before and have always been quick to 'rise' to the occasion. I'm pretty sure that whatever is going on is psychological. — Frustrated and Confused

Hot and Sexy?

Dear Bobby,
I am a fat person and no one loves me. I weigh 120 kg. and I don't know what to do. Please help me to lose weight because I want to be a little bit hot and sexy. Thanks a lot.

I have to be honest (I know...AGAIN?!) but I'm thinking the above email I received was sent as a joke. Mainly because the email address starts with jackblack@-----. So I thought someone was just trying to be funny. But then it got me thinking, how many of us actually feel like working out, having a better body, will get us what we want in life? Whether it is love, acceptance, or respect, I know I constantly battle with that issue.

Should Closeted Gays Be Exposed?

A few of the stories in the recent posts highlighted how individuals were outed to help them in the coming out process: friends and/or family members told other people to "help them along." To someone in the closet regarding his or her sexual orientation, the biggest fear is the exposure of the secret. This is known as "being outed.” Simply the fear of being outed has sent more than a few individuals back into the closet.

The Risk Of Spreading Herpes

"I went to the doctor for a rash on the sides of my torso. I tested positively for genital herpes, but I have never had any signs of herpes before. I have not been in a sexual relationship with anyone for 3 years before my new relationship, and my partner tested negatively for STDs. My doctor said I probably have immunity to herpes and I have less than 1% chance of spreading the virus to my partner. Is this accurate?"

Tips To Stay On The Wagon

Dear Dr. Weston I noticed on your bio that you work at Pride Institute so I thought you might have some ideas to help me. I've been in and out of recovery for the last 6 years and just haven't been able to stay clean. I've been sober for about 9 months now, I go to my meetings, but I'm getting way too close to relapsing again.

Got any help?

Broadway Bares It All For HIV...Watch The Hot Video Now!

Every year Broadway Cares/Equity Fights AIDS puts on one of the hottest events of the year.  Broadway Bares is a razzle-dazzle, burlesque-type show that runs for 2 shows only each year.  Hundreds of Broadway performers put on the strip-tease as a way to raise money for HIV/AIDS research.  Having raised over $140 million since it's inception, this show has proven to be a winner for 19 years and running. 

Although the show itself is hot, getting a peek backstage may be just a bit hotter.  The oh-so-lucky Susan Blackwell mingles with half-naked actors/dancers, gets to second base with Allison Janney and does her best to get Cheyenne Jackson to show off his package.  Check it out !

No More Excuses!

Bobby,

I'm a 19-year-old college student. I'm 5'11" and I weigh about 220 pounds. I want to lose weight, but it's hard because I work at a fast food restaurant, where I get free food. It’s tempting and easy to eat there because it's free and I'm a poor college student. I live too far away to walk to work. I know that I can do the regular sit-ups and pushups every night, but is there anything else I can do? When I get home from work it's usually night and I don't get up early enough to do anything in the morning.

Thanks,
Brandon

"Do I Have To Be Out?"

How does coming out fit into our identity? The question of coming out raises the issue of private and public personas. How much of our life is private and how much is public. This public side of our identity is the stuff we show with most people. Obviously, the private side is the part of our self that we keep "close to our chest."

There are many reasons for not disclosing sexual identity. For some people it's about safety. I've worked with people in the corrections field who suggest that coming out in prison is not a safe place. Then there is the current military policy of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" which highlights the consequences of coming out. And still today, in some countries, coming out risks a death sentence.

Dating Bradford : Pride Points

Every year at Thanksgiving I say “Hmmm… what am I thankful for this year?” Then I make a mental list and toast some theoretical champagne and in some small way it makes me feel appreciative for all that I have.

So then Gay Pride comes around and I started thinking, “Hmmm…what the HELL am I proud of this year, I’m still single for fuck sake?!?”

Coming Out - It is All About You

Whenever some thinks about coming out there is always the fear on how people will react to your news. We skip over the whole fact that coming out isn’t about other people, it is all about you.